Asking for help when it's needed is never an easy thing to do. Myself and my husband had to do just that over the past holiday season. My husband was just starting a new job after a year and a half of unemployment caused by his own health issues, and I had been, and still am, unable to work as much as I once had given my struggles with BPD and PTSD. Things had become increasingly difficult to handle financially despite our many personal cutbacks.
In our asking for help, we created a GoFundMe site and set a goal of $3,500. That is what we calculated as our need to get back in a stable place. It would have covered the cost of a few months' rent and paying off some previous medical bills. That would have given us some much needed breathing space to come to a place of stability and sustainability as Rowan began working at his new job.
That said, we have been more than blessed by the many gifts we have been given. The gifts have helped us cover one month's rent and pay off some medical bills from the past year. Despite the generosity given, we still are struggling to cover our basic expenses. Our goal was not met, and right now we are at 41%. Rowan has also had his own struggles and was recently in the hospital himself which took him away from work for a week. So, we need to make one final push to help us on the road to stability.
I know that probably most of you who read this blog, know these sorts of struggles all too well. Mental illness places stress on all aspects of our lives, and finances are not exempt. Still, I am asking for your help, because not to do so would be giving in to that self-critical voice inside of myself that tries to convince me that I am undeserving of help. I know that is not true. So, I am asking you to donate to help us back on our feet. The amount doesn't matter. Please, give only what you feel you are able. If everyone gave even just a little, it would give us a much needed boost. There really is strength in numbers, and that's what we're asking for.
More specifically, this will help us cover that last needed amount, roughly two months' rent worth, to get caught up. If that can happen, there is definitely a light at the end of the tunnel. Rowan's work will be able to start coming in to pay for our current needs rather than last month's needs. The money would also help us in terms of transportation (gas) costs so that I am able to continue seeing my therapist and make it out to my DBT treatment.
Again, it is not easy for us to ask for help. We have a largely "do it yourself" model for
our lives and creating our reality, but at this time, we know that we
must ask for support and assistance. Many fears come up for us. Fears
of being judged. Fears of abandonment, and/or ridicule for not being
enough or doing enough. We're taking a risk, breathing into that fear,
and asking anyway.
Will you help us in this time of need? Anything you
could donate, no matter the amount, will assist us more than you know,
and will be greatly appreciated.
Please visit our GoFundMe site to make a donation today.
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